At the bottom on the left is an alphabetical list of the pages in this web site, to help you navigate if you feel so inclined.
A guide to our family photo album covering 1994-2010, showing the principal themes, is here.
A year by year guide to our family time-line from 1994 through 2007 is here.
A photo journal beginning in 2008 is here.
The most recent pages of the album, copies of posts from my WordPress family blog, http://ianstock.wordpress.com/, are linked here:
http://www.zinzins.net/disneyland_weekend_2011.htm, http://www.zinzins.net/peace_train.htm, http://www.zinzins.net/manutd_v_barca.htm, http://www.zinzins.net/xmas_&_alex_birthday.htm.
When Growing Up Changes Course . . .
The two young men on the left here are Alban and Tom, demonstrating their teenagerhood with their friend Andrew, who is similarly afflicted! They were all around seventeen in this photo, taken by another of their friends. Note the cigarette in Alban's hand, if you can look away from the antlers, that is!
We were all teenagers once, of course, but are spared the details from our own lives because very few photos captured those periods. Somehow, and with admirable discretion. the camera disappeared. Not any more! The young people take the photos themselves, and then post them on their web site of choice. That is where the parents find them.
Many of the more intense teenage pastimes should remain relatively discrete, and thus will not grace this page! Some are public. On the right, with his back to us and a lot of hair, is Nick playing poker in Paris in 2007. You will notice that most of the visible chips are in front of him! He really enjoys his poker, unless he loses, of course.
The parents do meet some of our teenagers' friends, principally when they come to stay. Below left is Alban with his then girlfriend Heather. Note that he has not taken off his baseball cap, even to give her a hug! it is a question of priorities.
Dating has changed from when the parents were their age, for the better we hope. We do not enforce all of the same restrictions that our parents enforced, but of course those we do enforce do not meet with their approval. Some things never change.
Another thing that never changes is the enthusiasm with which teenagers spend time with the parents. They live at home for much of the time, and their friends spend a fair bit of time with them at home. But time spent together with the rest of the family is almost exclusively reserved for special events.
One such event typically occurs on Mother's Day each year, and 2007 was no exception. All of the children in the area (Nick was in France) dutifully appeared as requested at the chosen restaurant, the Ideal Cafe on the sea front in Santa Cruz. But there was a delay: lots of families had the same idea. As the meal had not yet started, the teenagers sat on a bench off to the side and away from us. On the right, here they are watching the volleyball games on the beach and studiously avoiding the family until the table in the cafe is ready. Marie-Hélène's foot on the bench served only to aggravate them, which of course made the gesture doubly satisfying and worthwhile!
On the left is a little advice from the parents on the wall at home. Needless to say, it was studiously ignored!
While communication with the older generation is definitely reduced, or at least takes a lot of work to assure, communication between them seems to work well. Below on the right is a candid of that kind of communion, between Nick and Alban in this case, taken during a family birthday dinner in 2007 at Rosie McCann's in downtown Santa Cruz.
So adulthood approaches. The value of money will be learned someday soon, as will the value of family. The fickle nature of friendship in many cases will become clearer, as will the many advantages of cleaning up after yourself and organizing your life.
In the meantime, we wait!
Here are other phases in the history of our four older children: Blending; To Santa Cruz; Missing You; Moving Out; Graduations I; and Graduations 2007.
Listing of Pages in the Site
. . . with Alban